People say hurtful things. That is a lesson quickly learned by someone who is grieving. Words from a friend or acquaintance intended to comfort you end up coming across as insensitive or inappropriate. People do hurtful things. Despite the desire to be helpful, certain acts of service can end up harming a grieving person more [...]
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Extending Grace During Grief
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, How To Help, The Early Days, The Grief Process, tagged comforting a mother who has lost a child, comforting those who grieve, coping with grief, death of a child, death of a son, effect of time on grief, grace for those who hurt us, grief, how to help a grieving family, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child on March 3, 2010 | 9 Comments »
Stay or Move?
Posted in Life Changes, The Early Days, The Grief Process, tagged coping with death, coping with grief, death of a child, effect of time on grief, grief, grief and decision making, life change after loss on February 18, 2010 | 4 Comments »
After experiencing intense grief, there often develops painful associations with the places and things that remind us of our loss. The hospital we once drove by without a moment’s thought is now avoided because it holds the memory of the death or illness of a loved one. The office where we once worked now only [...]
New Beginnings
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, death of a son, God's Goodness In the Midst of Pain, Grieving During the Holidays, Hope, Life After Death, New Year, The Early Days, The Grief Process, The Hope of Heaven, The nearness of God, Touches From Heaven, tagged comforting a mother who has lost a child, comforting those who grieve, coping with death, death of a child, death of a son, effect of time on grief, first Christmas after death, grief and the holidays, Grieving During the Holidays, heaven, hope for the future, how to help when a child has died, Jacob Nyenhuis, Life After Death, loss of a child, miracles, Sandy Nyenhuis blog, son's death on February 10, 2010 | 3 Comments »
Adjusting to life without my son was difficult. The first months were especially hard. Three months after Jacob died, we were faced with Christmas and New Years. The following is a letter I wrote to family and friends on New Year’s Eve 2006. Dear Family and Friends, Michael, Raleigh and I recently returned from our [...]
Unpredictable Emotions
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, death of a son, Hope, How To Help, The Early Days, The Grief Process, Uncategorized, tagged comforting a mother who has lost a child, comforting those who grieve, console the grieving, coping with death, coping with grief, death of a child, death of a son, effect of time on grief, emotions of grief, grief, heaven, hope for the future, how to comfort those who grieve, how to console the grief-stricken, how to help a grieving family, how to help when a child has died, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child, Sandy Nyenhuis, son's death on January 29, 2010 | 4 Comments »
This post comes from a blog I wrote over a year ago: Yesterday, I spoke with my friend yesterday who had lost her nephew only hours earlier. She repeated a comment her brother (the father of the young man who died) had made to her earlier that day. She said, “I’m having a strong moment [...]
Calendars and Clocks
Posted in death of a son, Life After Death, The Early Days, The Grief Process, tagged calendars and clocks, death of a child, death of a son, effect of time on grief, grief, hope for the future, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child, son's death on January 26, 2010 | 2 Comments »
On a recent morning, I received a message from my friend, Tanya, reminding me that exactly one month had passed since the death of her son, who died in a car accident.
“I’m having a very hard time facing this milestone,” she wrote. As I read her message, the words weighed heavily on me, because I knew how she felt.
The Nearness of God Will Be Evident
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, death of a son, Dreams and Visions, Hope, The Early Days, The Grief Process, The Hope of Heaven, The nearness of God, Touches From Heaven, tagged comfort, comfort for grief, comforting a mother who has lost a child, coping with death, death, death of a child, death of a son, grief, heaven, Jacob J Nyenhuis, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child, miracles, nearness of God, Scripture that heals, visions on January 11, 2010 | 5 Comments »
We’ve all gone through difficult times, but we haven’t all felt the nearness of God during those times. Does God really care? Is he really near? Yes, He is. Ask Him for eyes to see and ears to hear Him. His nearness will become evident in ways you might never have imagined.
People Grieve Differently
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, death of a son, Hope, The Early Days, The Grief Process, tagged comfort, death of a child, grief, grieving differently, how to help a grieving family, Jacob Nyenhuis, Sandy Nyenhuis on January 6, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
The differences in the grieving that my husband and I experienced began immediately. He continued to cry out while I went completely silent and numb.
How Do You Survive The Death Of A Child?
Posted in death of a son, Hope, Life After Death, The Early Days, The Hope of Heaven, tagged car accident, comfort, comforting a mother who has lost a child, death of a child, death of a son, grief, heaven, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child, Michael Warren, Sandy Nyenhuis, Scripture that heals on January 6, 2010 | 3 Comments »
A friend recently reminded me of something I used to say. “If anything ever happens to one of my kids, just lock me up and throw away the key, because I’ll never be able to survive it.” That is exactly how I felt right up to the day Jacob died.
How To Help ~ A Few More Thoughts
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, Dreams and Visions, How To Help, The Early Days, tagged comfort, comforting a mother who has lost a child, comforting those who grieve, coping with death, coping with grief, death of a child, death of a son, dreams, how to comfort those who grieve, how to help a grieving family, how to help when a child has died, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child, visions on January 5, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
If you are a close friend to the family who has experienced a loss, you might want to offer to spend the night in their home. We weren’t home the first night since we went to the hospital where Jacob had been taken, but my friend, Kim, stayed at our house. She answered the phone [...]
Helpful Things To Do For Someone Who Has Lost A Child
Posted in Comforting the Grieving, death of a son, How To Help, The Early Days, tagged comforting a mother who has lost a child, comforting those who grieve, console the grieving, death of a child, death of a son, grief, how to comfort a mother, how to comfort those who grieve, how to help a grieving family, how to help when a child has died, Jacob Nyenhuis, loss of a child, memorial website, Michael Warren, Sandy Nyenhuis, Sandy Nyenhuis blog on January 2, 2010 | 1 Comment »
Our community has lost another young adult who was, and always will be, a bright and shining star. People in our community, like in most communities, are desperate to know how to help the grieving family. I will share the ways in which our family was helped. What helped and comforted us might not work [...]
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